FORGIVENESS
Someone once said” the problem with choosing forgiveness is that it feels like the ultimate betrayal of ourselves”
It feels like the wrong that has been done upon us is going unpunished, so we get angry and anger is such a powerful emotion, we know its destructive but yet we find it hard to let it go, I know how it feels. we think staying angry is going to change things, to heal the wounds and make everything better.
The bitter truth about anger is just confused hope,hope that whoever offended us would come along and settle the harm that was done,by staying angry we won’t forget what has been done to us ever, makes you feel like if you hold on to that anger the same problem or offense wouldn’t happen to you again.
Forgiveness is accepting that anger wouldn’t change the past and anger wouldn’t change what has happened, choosing forgiveness means turning your focus towards the future, that as unfair as what has been done is you still have to live in ruins and no amount of anger is going to reconstruct it. It all starts with you, you have to do that yourself, it means deciding your peace is finally more important than destructing someone else’s, it means not allowing what happened to define you any longer
Forgiveness just doesn’t happen overnight, it doesn’t necessarily mean forgetting what happened, our memory is useful to us. It isn’t a magic potion that erases the pain of what happened, forgiveness gives the ability to build a foundation of your strength,your own capacity to heal, forgiveness Is not the surrender of your power, forgiveness is the decision that you’re finally ready to take control of your emotions.
Zainab Umar.