How to Strengthen Your Relationships One Interaction at a Time

The psychology of everyday emotional connection

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Many of us struggle to show we truly care because we haven’t yet mastered the art of making and responding to “bids for connection”.

Table of Contents1. Understanding bids for connection2. Examples of bids for connection3. Examples of responses to bids for connection
3.1 Turning toward
3.2 Turning against
3.3 Turning away
4. The power of making bids and turning toward

1. Understanding bids for connection

Since bids are often implicit, we need to pay attention to our loved ones to make sure we don’t miss opportunities to foster closeness.

2. Examples of bids for connection

3. Examples of responses to bids for connection

3.1 Turning toward

Turning toward each other in little ways every day is the key to staying emotionally engaged.

3.2 Turning against

3.3 Turning away

4. The power of making bids and turning toward

Bids can be non-verbal, so listen out for sighs and pay attention to body language, as well as noticing more obvious questions or conversation starters.

The frequency of your bids matters, too

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