Ways to Win a Girl’s Heart

Guys always say girls are difficult to understand and they don’t even know what they want sometimes. But come on, these things take time to figure out. The more people you meet, the better understanding you’ll have of what you are looking for.

For this article, in the interest of time, I asked around and collected the five most common traits that girls appreciate in guys:

1. Humour

We know, not everyone can be the funny guy. But many girls cite this as one trait they appreciate, and a good way to get their attention. That doesn’t mean you have to go out of your way to play the clown, though. Slapstick humour can get annoying. Wit, however, is always appreciate. It points to a lively, whip-sharp mind and a playful nature.

But don’t take my word for it — I have science to back it up! Researchers from Northumbria University posit that people regard a good sense of humour as a sign of intellect and social intelligence, and women are inherently geared to respond positively to such signs of intelligence.

2. Generosity

Generosity in nature encompasses a lot of things: kindness, compassion, empathy, and more. A guy with a big heart will likely not leave you in the lurch, will lend you a listening ear or a shoulder to lean on when you need on, and help out wherever he can. Yes, basically, a nice guy. And no, it’s not true that nice guys finish last. Nice guys last the longest.

3. Chivalry

There’s nothing more off-putting than a guy who looks out for number one and dives for that seat on the train when there’s a lady in heels laden down with bags right next to him. Some guys would say girls can’t have their cake and eat it, that if we want gender equality then we should expect to be treated like one of the guys too. But I think gender equality means a woman is treated with the same respect as a guy. So there’s nothing wrong with treating a girl well. Bonus: not being shy about your chivalry is extremely attractive.

4. Creativity

Personally, I’m tossing this in as well. This does not, by the way, refer to creative ways to pick up girls. I’m saying guys with fresh ideas and concepts always bouncing around their minds will never be dull. They are always driven from within, and offer new perspectives that may challenge yours and open your eyes to other possibilities. This sort of energy and imagination is highly attractive and infectious!

5. Ambition

There’s almost nothing more attractive than a guy with drive and goals of his own he’s working hard to achieve. We’re not saying be a total workaholic and ignore everything else but your promotion or the size of your bank account. But if you have something to work for, something you are passionate about, that kind of zeal and aspiration will definitely catch our attention.

6. A Friendly (Non-Sleazy) Smile

Now that we’ve gotten the heavy stuff out of the way, let’s get superficial. Personally, I’m attracted to happy, friendly people with a warm smile and engaging manner of speech (i.e. non-cocky, non-secretive — just open, genuine, and honest). A friend once told me, “You need a puppy, not a male human.”

Girls have an in-built sleaze detector. We know when a guy sidles up to us with a smirk wants something from us we’re probably not willing to give. Instead, if a guy has a genuine desire to be friends and not be too pushy or creepy about it, he’s more likely to leave a good impression.

7. A Good Sense of Style

A good sense of style can earn you brownie points in a girl’s book. A well-dressed guy is hard to ignore. That doesn’t mean you have to dress head-to-toe in designer clothing, or add poser-y elements like a fedora hat or a scarf in 33-degree Celsius weather. But girls would definitely appreciate when you put some effort into dressing up. Think tasteful and classic, like a button-down shirt and tailored pants or dark-wash jeans. (Please burn those baggy jeans already, and invest in a pair of slim-fit ones.)

Ladies, what are some of your favourite traits in a guy? Share your thoughts in the Comments section below, and do look out for our upcoming article on what guys are attracted to in a girl!

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