The Art of Romance
Time is fleeting by the seconds, minutes, days…it continues to press upon us, never allowing us to take a breath of air; but inevitably it comes after each of us endlessly. Photographs are evidence that just for one moment, everything was perfect. If you wish to know what someone is afraid to lose, watch what they photograph. We love what we can’t have and sometimes we love what we could. When was the last time you felt like yourself? How lost have you been? and how great is your longing to be found? When was the last time you felt happy as if someone genuinely knew you, and not the person you’ve been pretending to be?
The other day I was having a conversation with my friend when he asked me whether or not asking a girl out on a date was too “old school and outdated”. I paused confused, a million things ran through my mind, and the first was this:
Since when did asking a girl out to get coffee considered “too old school”, when did telling a girl she was lovely regarded as “outdated”. Our generation has turned handwritten love letters into text messages smothered in emojis, dates transformed into “Netflix and chill”, and asking a girl to dinner is preposterous. But Why? It’s simple, we are afraid. We are scared to admit our fear of rejection, so we hide behind the mask of the internet. I mean who wants to meet the parents of your significant other when you could just make it easier and use an app. Swipe right when we find someone attractive and then “Netflix and chill” in less than an hour. Because it’s easier to “slide into their DM’s” than to build up the courage to tell them you thought they were beautiful.
One day you’re going to wake up next to an empty bed and crumpled sheets and realize that something is missing. The guy who asks you to “chill” or the girl who willingly comes over in minutes is all temporary happiness to fill that missing space between your messy sheets and skeptical mind. You are unaware of your worth because you never treated yourself properly. You deserve the love you keep trying to give everyone else.
Our generation has the power to change the world we live in. Don’t call them to “Netflix and chill”, they don’t care. Take them out to the movies, tell them their intelligence is impressive, that you’ve finally met someone like them. That at the end of the day, they know that their existence means something to you. We are so easily fooled by mere masks imprinted over our souls. We overlook a person’s kindness, strength, courage for the amount of likes on their profile picture, romance is more than just a message behind a screen. So ask them on that date, tell her she’s what you’ve been looking for… time is limited and as the seconds pass by it slips through the crevices of our hands.
Romance only gets old if you let it.