Whenever I thought about my future, I wondered if I would have a child. There are many things I value in life. Your mum is definitely at the top of that list. Spending time with friends, family and having new experiences is also really important to me. I’m very passionate about my work, but I never want it to be the focus of my life. Your mum and I both love travelling, having adventures, but also enjoying quiet moments together. It was hard to imagine where a child would fit into this.

But even though I didn’t know exactly why, I felt there was something about children worth experiencing. Years of watching my own parents love me, despite my flaws made me think there must be something special I was missing, a feeling just beyond my comprehension. …