Prompt #25: Better than “Stay positive.”
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Give a Damn! Lots of Damns!

Stay positive; no one likes a Debbie Downer. Fake it til you make it and remember that you can change your life by doing nothing more than changing your attitude.

In a world where life gets boring, and we suffer from depression at higher and higher rates, we need to tell ourselves that if we think it, we can achieve it, all we have to do is hang in there. We get back what we put out into the universe, and gratitude and an adjustment of expectations are all you need to feel euphoria. It’s all bullshit but humans are good at bullshitting each other and even better at bullshitting ourselves, so, sometimes it works.

But some days it takes a little more. Some days it takes more breathing in and out, more self-care, and more forgiveness to get through. Somedays you just keep swimming, take it minute by minute, hour by hour, and let yourself rest at the end. Some days you give in, and you let out all the negativity you have been burying and deep in your chest. Somedays one foot just won’t go in front of the other, and you can’t bring yourself to try, try again.

Give a damn. Give lots of damns. More than anyone.
Alexis Ohanian

So, what do you do when putting on a happy face and thinking positive doesn’t do the trick anymore? You find a reason to give a damn; that’s what you do. You find a reason why this day matters. You look at the impact you are trying to have. You give a shit because no one else will.

The beauty of giving a damn is that you don’t have to be happy to do it, you don’t even have to be nice about it, you just have to be the one who is willing to get the shit done because the shit needs doing.

Outside of my day job I want to be a serious writer and some days I feel lost, I feel discouraged, and I feel stupid. Around every corner is a failure and envy and confusion and I wonder why I try. I start to think I will never get to where I want to be, I will never write anything good, and I will make a fool of myself when everyone finds out I am a fraud. I want to crawl into bed and never come out, but I remind myself to give a damn.

Reaching your dreams is something you have to do on your own, no one can do it for you. You have to fight every day. You have to kick yourself in the ass the whole way. You have to keep motivated, and that doesn’t always mean being nice to yourself. It does mean you have to give a damn about yourself. It does mean you have to give a damn about the way you want to change the world. It does mean you have to give a damn about helping people and leaving this world in better shape than you found it.

Giving a damn means being ruthless, it means putting on a bit of war paint and fighting tooth and nail for something. Giving a damn means there is no room for rainbows and silver linings. Giving a damn requires something a little more, it is pure strength and focus. No positivity cliches are allowed!

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