As a blue-eyed white man I can’t truly empathise with your position as I’ve never been it and am likely to ever. I feel we are all cursed by the stereotypes pushed on us from the day we are born, whether about ourselves or others. And the worst thing about these stereotypes is that they seldom reflect the make up of society now but society as it was when our parents’ were little.
I grew up in a small town where the only non-whites were the Chinese family who owned the take away. Where there were no gays. There was no other narrative or view point other than the White Anglo-Saxon Protestant. I escaped that town and as much of that mindset as I can, but I still see it in the people who live there. The world has moved on and non-whites and non-heterosexuals and have moved in many people still believe the town should be preserved as it was 30+ years ago.
As a father of a 15 year old girl I see the pressure put on her by peers and the expectations of adults who don’t realise that they pigeonholing her before she’s even learnt who she is. How awful it must be to be an adult, to know who you are but surrounded by people who think you are or should be something different. And to know that they have the power to shape you to fit their world view.