How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

Principle 1 — Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

Principle 2 — Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.

Principle 3 — Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

Principle 4 — Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

Principle 5 — Let the other person save face.

Principle 6 — Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”

Principle 7 — Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.

Principle 8 — Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

Principle 9 — Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Change people or simply make them doing something it’s a difficult thing, so for example I have a sister, she’s 17. I have some problems with her because sometimes she doesn’t want to do her household duties. My mother does’n care about that because she doesn’t want to interfere in our affairs, but the only thing that my mom want is a made household work. But when I try to make my sister to do something, she answers back to me and doesn’t do anything. But yesterday when we cleaned house I tried to use these methods to my sister and it was successfully. We had a clean house, cooked delicious dinner etc.

It was a veryyy useful advice for me and I hope that for you guys too. It was only my first steps. I can’t imagine how I will influence people using these principles. Hope that I will use it in my future career too.