Terry Crews was a big part of the story, but just a part — and that was key

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On June 26, the United States Senate Committee on the Judiciary met to hear testimony regarding a review of the 2016 Sexual Assault Survivors’ Bill of Rights. Testifying alongside Nobel Peace Prize nominee and founder/CEO of the national civil-rights non-profit Rise, Amanda Ngyuen, was well-known, author, actor, husband, father and former NFL football player Terry Crews.

In the case of Ngyuen, her story alone is inspirational and compelling. But Crews’ testimony was nothing short of a watershed moment in the societal history of Black men in America. …


You know, like polyamory + anniversary, a portmanteau

I had wonderful experience about a month ago. I celebrated an anniversary. No, not one of those “two week anniversaries” or a “6 month half anniversary”. I celebrated an actual one-year, anniversary. A full 365 days prior, I began a relationship with a wonderful woman whom I love very, very much.

We are both poly, met as poly people looking to get into some sort of polyamorous relationship. We were up front, voiced our intentions and both agreed that any sort of relationship between us would remain open and ethically non-monogamous. We were both in relationships at the time. I was in a “monopoly” or mono-poly relationship — meaning my partner was monogamous with me, but was fully aware that I am polyamorous and supported me in my other relationships. Then I met an awesome girl. …


Sex-geek life goals

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I can haz list?

I’ll be perfectly honest. I’m not sure where the idea of the Sexual Bucket List originated. I can’t credit the creator. But I LOVE the concept. I’m a fan of lists in general. They organize thoughts, and putting things in black and white makes them tangible, at least for my brain. So, many moons ago, I began writing down items on my own Sexy Bucket List. It continues to grow organically as I develop in my sex geekdom. Things are accomplished and checked on the list (never removed). And new and fun items are added all the time. …


I am a man of words

I am a man of words. I believe in the importance of verbal communication, be it electronic, spoken, or written. Okay, so I prefer written or electronic. I have done some public speaking. Rumor has it that I have done it well, but typing is much less terrifying. Ironically, we live in a time of vast amounts of readily available information, and yet the subtle and critical art of written communication seems to be fading. Or, at the very least, it has become less critical. The more connected we are, the less we seem to connect.

One need only peruse the internet to see the rampant use of shorthand, abbreviations, emojis and other code with which modern folk speak. And while I have had to use the online Urban Dictionary a few times, simply to understand what was being said, I prefer my old school Oxford English Dictionary, or the ubiquitous Merriam Webster’s dictionary. Maybe it can be chalked up to a generational divide, but I just don’t get the modern slang. (I really did just make myself seem like an old curmudgeon didn’t I?) And while I try to keep up as best I can in order to remain relevant, there are just some things in modern communication with which I have trouble dealing. …


I am a man of words. I believe in the importance of verbal communication, be it electronic, spoken, or written. Okay, so I prefer written or electronic. I have done some public speaking. Rumor has it that I have done it well, but typing is much less terrifying. Ironically, we live in a time of vast amounts of readily available information, and yet the subtle and critical art of written communication seems to be fading. Or, at the very least, it has become less critical. The more connected we are, the less we seem to connect. One need only peruse the internet to see the rampant use of shorthand, abbreviations, emojis and other code with which modern folk speak. And while I have had to use the online Urban Dictionary a few times, simply to understand what was being said, I prefer my old school Oxford English Dictionary (http://www.oed.com/), or the ubiquitous Merriam Webster’s dictionary. Maybe it can be chalked up to a generational divide, but I just don’t get the modern slang. (I really did just make myself seem like an old curmudgeon didn’t I?) …


Simply put. I am a cerebral fuck. I think, early, often, and a lot. I spend more time in my head than just about anywhere else in the universe. Occasionally, the thoughts I have are very profound and creative. Sometimes it’s just random bullshit. But often my insights and thoughts are unique, and fun. I have been a fan of all things human sexuality for most of my legal adult life. I read blogs, books, columns and research papers. I listen to podcasts and follow various social media pages. I am a huge fan of sex, sex education, and lifestyles that surround sex. My interests are in porn, kink, sex positivity, sex education, size acceptance, alternative life and relationship styles, BDSM experimentation, and sex work (particularly the decriminalization thereof). These are the things that interest me and that I will be writing about as I feel so compelled to do. But let’s be honest. This is my blog. My little spot on the interwebs to do pretty much whatever I want. So I may write about a few other random things that I feel like sharing. It all kind of depends on what I feel moved to yap about. As I type this I have no idea if anyone will ever read it. But, this is therapy for me. This is intended to be a place to voice my insights and opinions about my journey through this discovery. That is why I am here. …


Simply put. I am a cerebral fuck. I think, early, often, and a lot. I spend more time in my head than just about anywhere else in the universe. Occasionally, the thoughts I have are very profound and creative. Sometimes it’s just random bullshit. But often my insights and thoughts are unique, and fun. I have been a fan of all things human sexuality for most of my legal adult life. I read blogs, books, columns and research papers. I listen to podcasts and follow various social media pages. I am a huge fan of sex, sex education, and lifestyles that surround sex. My interests are in porn, kink, sex positivity, sex education, size acceptance, alternative life and relationship styles, BDSM experimentation, and sex work (particularly the decriminalization thereof). These are the things that interest me and that I will be writing about as I feel so compelled to do. But let’s be honest. This is my blog. My little spot on the interwebs to do pretty much whatever I want. So I may write about a few other random things that I feel like sharing. It all kind of depends on what I feel moved to yap about. As I type this I have no idea if anyone will ever read it. But, this is therapy for me. This is intended to be a place to voice my insights and opinions about my journey through this discovery. That is why I am here. …

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Zach Budd

Polyamorous, Black, kinky, geeky, Consent Activist, slut, survivor, TrekkER, MSW student, Wakandan, hockey fan, dog rescuer, lover of bourbon, coffee, & cigars

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