I think that not only do your clients get confused about the difference between sex and love, also many of the commenters here do as well.
Sex is an appetite like food and although there are the occasional sexually anorexic most of us need sex. If we can get it from someone we are intimately involved with that is wonderful, but it isn’t always possible. We can even decide we don’t want a close relationship at this stage in our lives, but still have to satisfy our need for sex. Many people find that masturbation helps, but it just doesn’t always have the same satisfaction as sex with a real live body. For that reason I think that feelings of pity or sadness are not really appropriate.
Of course, articles like this perpetuate the myth that using a prostitute is something that only men and a few women do. However, with the increased personal and financial independence of women we are finding that more and more women are turning to prostitutes. For the wealthier woman there are male escort agencies which are on the increase. For those less monied there is sex tourism, where they can travel to a third world country and ‘buy’ a local young man to share their bed for the duration. These women often persuade themselves that it is a holiday ‘fling’ that they have engaged in without acknowledging that as soon as they are on the plane home the watch that they gave will be sold for food and he will be looking for the next tourist.
Although I don’t like the business of selling sex I do recognise that in the sort of society in which we live it is a necessity. Until we learn to properly distinguish between sex, friendship and love and learn how to give and take sex in the same way as we give and take a meal from one another it will continue to flourish.
