The Influence of Parents for Child’s Success

Changing Lives One Child at a Time.

For as long as I can remember, I have always been a speak before I think type of person. It was not until my recent years when I realized how important disciplining myself really was. Having patience would allow me to develop several kills as well as disciplinary acts. Changing my approach to researching information thoroughly & strategically planning. This method has allowed me to be prepared for any challenges to come my way as well as evolving to holding higher standards for myself & everyone I come in contact with. Because children are the future, I believe us as a group of adults, especially parents can do a better job of providing the best opportunities possible using a similar method. Through the years, I have had the luxury of working with students as a lead program coordinator, building guidelines for them to follow leading to success. I have also engaged whole heartedly in training & mentoring athletes not just to provide an abundance of athletic information but to help produce business competitors as well. At a younger age my mother kept a handful of foster children and too did my grandparents. This helped the transition in helping with others because I've been accustomed to it my whole life. I have witnessed children being moved home to home for reasons they don’t understand forcing them to have a different outlook on life to begin with. In my experience on school grounds, I come in contact with many parents who look at school as a sort of daycare. Many have a lack of interest for their child’s academia, which results in poor class behavior. This initiates multiple issues evolving disrupting other students, lack of motivation when showing up & most importantly not preparing them for the next level in life. It is clear & understandable there are hard working, goal driven parents as well as single parents who have the work ethic of two people. Once again, understandable but there is no excuse as to why teaching manners, respecting their and setting standards can’t be valued. Even taking out time researching & planning which schools or programs would help your child excel is critical. Simply because being in school all day transfers responsibility to the teachers. Only teachers are put in position to teach a curriculum in a organized environment preparing them for the next grade level and furthermore, in life. So try hard to influence your children in a positive light & do best to surround them with the best opportunities possible. Teach them manners, strengthen morals & create boundaries affirming standards to be represented proudly. In my honest opinion, when it comes to sports not only are parents normally the biggest supporters but they should too be your biggest fans. Signing your kid up for athletic competition is a great start to help instill teamwork, discipline and some structure. Yet, it shouldn't end there. Follow through by attending practices or even volunteering to be a team mom or dad when your schedule permits. Be an example of expressing commitment, passion & belief in being more than what you are expected of. It is okay to sit out in different climates, helping out with the snack bar, working the ticket booth & so many other program oriented responsibilities. It doesn't end at sports, even if your child is involved in the school play, the math club or even the science fair we underestimate the value of support. As parents you are the first to be able to set standards & boundaries for your child to live by. Having the opportunity to become their very first role model. Before children become old enough to idolize entertainers or athletes they should already acknowledge who the real heroes are. Being too tired can’t be an excuse to your child’s ambition. Everyone will have a different perspective on parenting, especially parents. They have the best on hand one on one perspective of how to deal with a child. What they don’t have is a 3rd person view on their own children but if you ever notice many parents have multiple suggestions how another child should behave. Being raised within foster care systems & group homes, I've had the advantage to see as well as listen to what life is like not knowing your parents, the parents being strung out on drugs or voluntarily gave up their seeds. As rough as that may sound many of these children grow to rule the world in so many ways because of that chip, that underdog spirit. As great as that may sound, well it must be understood they don’t mature to become anything successful without the help, support & unconditional love in which they received from their foster parents. When you feel as if you have nothing it makes pursuing better days tougher. When you feel as if you have no one it makes it tough to survive. I am expressing this to say it doesn't matter the situation, even though no biological parents physically present & I have witnessed many grow to be great hard-working business savvy individuals. Don’t just follow the normal, be an extra parent. Be proud to correct your child’s homework. Attend back to school night. Be the parent to help drive kids to the soccer games. Help fundraiser for their school play. When it seems as if it doesn't matter, to them it does. So appreciate what you were responsible of creating and be of great influence, setting scholarly standards, helping with their golf swing or just simply enjoying a family vacation.