Stop Digging Graves
“If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging” (George Apperson)
I see this everyday, as adults somehow we feel to grow into an entitlement of being allowed to complain and complain everyday. If you aren’t complaining, it’s like you aren’t fulfilling everything that you need to as an adult.
We can blame it on the harshness of life or even on all the lost dreams that we carried from childhood, but in the end, no one really wants to be around those who do nothing but complain all the time.
This isn’t just you, or your friend or even me but every one of us — I’ve taken solace in putting the blame on someone or something else when things aren’t going my way, I’ll admit it and it feels like the only thing that you can do at the time. Except, I like going back in time and examining why and how I did a few things and that’s when I realised it was all my fault.
People seem to take offense when you tell them it’s their fault, somehow it translates into you deserve it. But that’s not what I mean at all. I acknowledge that anything and everything that happens to me is my fault entirely, even when it is not. Doing this makes me feel powerful, as if I could rule the world because I can rule my life.
If everything is my fault, surely that means I can design my life exactly the way I want it to be
Well, that’s what I think anyway — call me naive, but it has worked perfectly each time.
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right” (Henry Ford)