Solving Short-Term and Long-Term Stuckness
In the lake of life, we’re all driving boats.
At times, we throw our anchor into the water, intentionally making our boat stuck in one place.
Sometimes we want to be stuck in a certain place and sometimes we’re frustrated that our boats are stuck.
There’s a healthy stuckness and an unhealthy stuckness.
Heathy stuckness is when we’ve chosen to anchor for a bit in a certain area to help someone, or to rest, or to fish.
Unhealthy stuckness is different and it comes in a long-term form and a short-term form.
In the short-term form of stuckness, we’re dragging our anchor as we drive our boat. We’re fine for a little while, but then the anchor snags on something.
We’re usually snagging on worries and anxious thoughts.
Instead of being in control of our anchor and choosing when and where we will release it, we’re getting hooked on anything that sparks even a minor worry or anxiety. We’re driving our boat in reaction to everything that is under us.
It’s a lot more difficult to avoid the worries of life when we’re dragging an anchor through huge patches of tall, anxious seaweed.
In this case, we will constantly be pulled back, stuck and have to work hard to get out of the grip again to keep going. Instead, we need to stop for a moment, get our anchor out of the water, and not let all the things around us determine where our boat goes.
In the long-term form of stuckness, we’ve anchored our boat to a bunch of big rocks. These rocks are usually big life issues that we don’t want to deal with.
Our boat is really, really stuck there.
We feel overwhelmed by our situation, so we try to ignore our stuckness. From time to time, we get frustrated that that we’re not going anywhere, but we remain in denial about the reason we’re not going anywhere.
Instead of solving the problem, we pretend there are other reasons why the boat won’t move. We check the gasoline, and the battery, and the starter… everything works great. So, instead, we go back to ignoring it, content to hang out on our boat until we get frustrated again.
Although it might prove difficult to pull the anchor free from these big rocks, we need to focus on the issue and solve it. Nothing else will happen until we deal with the anchor that’s stuck in the rocks.
Are you stuck?
Here’s what you need to do: focus on what’s under the water.
Many of us are concerned with the boat and life above the water. But what’s going on under the surface of our lives effects everything above the surface.
Stop for a moment and consider what’s under your boat.
What’s dragging you down?
The problem is never the weeds or the rocks, it’s that you’re not taking care of your anchor.
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