Do you feel that you deserve happiness no matter what? Do think you have the right to be happy at any given time? How about when you aren’t happy do you feel a need to be happy or a want to be happy?
These are all questions I have been asking some friends locally for a few days now and the responses are all over the spectrum. I really thought people would say that yes I deserve to be happy, but many were on the fence about that. Some felt that the need and the want were unsettling in a way in thinking about happiness. They think happiness just comes when it wants and leaves. There is no way to control it.
A few of my friends stated emphatically that they needed happiness in their lives all the time. Didn’t matter what was going on they needed happiness to stay sane. Others said when time are tough they want happiness but usually don’t find it. They also said when those times are upon them they look for happiness because they know deep inside they need it.
Finding Happiness
What do you do when you want happiness if it isn’t around you? Do you make the effort to find happiness? If so how do you find the happiness you want or need? I tend to find the people I know in my life that will make me happy in those times. I know I want happiness in my life. Maybe not all the time but I like it around and I like it when it isn’t expected.
I like happiness when I least expect it. What I don’t like is when I need it nad can’t get it. There are days when the need for happiness outweighs everything else going on. Ever have one of those days? What do you do to find happiness?
To be honest on some of those days just going out back and sitting by the pool is the happiness I want and need. Maybe it’s a walk out the front door with a cup of coffee and sitting at our round table and watching the neighbors. It’s also when I sit there and just enjoy the sun and the breeze, if there is one.
Do You Need Anyone?
There doesn’t always have to be a person to make you happy. Sometimes it is all about you and you alone. I don’t know if that makes sense to you, but as an only child who spent many a day at an embassy alone I learned to find happiness within when needed or wanted.
That happiness to me always in a small way felt selfish. It was my happiness and I didn’t want to share with anyone. I know that sounds crazy in a way and you might have thought back then if you knew me this kid will grow up to be a nut or mass murderer. Guess what? I am not a mass murderer, but I guess in some ways I am a little nuts/crazy, but then again I believe we need a little craziness in our lives to keep us sane.
Embracing Happiness
I love happiness. I love when it is around me or surrounds me. I find happiness in the screaming voices of my 3 (soon to be 4) grandchildren that come here to hear Papa since some old Sicilian kids songs or drive me nuts with “Let it Go from the movie Frozen. Guess what though? I’m happy.
How about you? Share some of your ways to find that need or want of happiness that you do? Share with us what you expect from happiness?
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