Here’s Why We Owe Ourselves Some Exposure Therapy Every Now And Then

Life is too short to be boxed in our own head.

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We, as humans, are wired to be guided by the voices in our heads — our courses of action are the translation of those thoughts.

Sometimes they work for us, yet at times — we may be too clouded by their presence to realize that they may not be working for us;

We’re so focused on what we’re being driven by, that we don’t care enough to consider a different approach — one that might reveal a new way of becoming, maybe?

How does exposure therapy make sense in the light of all of this?

Well, by the virtue of being human — we’re all limited by our fear of some things and situations, that keep us from outgrowing a part of ourselves;

Outgrowing older versions that our souls crave to be released from.

Exposure therapy was developed to help people overcome their fears, anxieties, and worries — simply by being exposed to them.

This fancy psychological term needn’t be something we can apply only under supervision of professionals — but it is something we can practise in small (yet impactful) acts of our daily lives.

We’re often so hardwired to accept our state of mind the way it is, that we don’t even bother to question it — rather we end up defending it, and justifying it.

But is a justification doing justice to our own growth?

Were we really put in this world to justify our limitations, instead of actively exploring what we could do to overcome them?

If you’re being brutally honest with yourself right now — you know the answer to the above question, and chances are — you know what to do about it too;

And it’s not just you — it’s me, and all of us out here, allowing our minds to convince us of staying where we are.

It is understandable that we’re a result of our experiences — good, bad, and ugly — and we have allowed those learnings to shape us into who we are today;

But even then, is it truly worth limiting ourselves to the fears that is a result of our own making?

It’s not about being reckless to prove to the world what we are capable of;

It’s rather about being compassionate, and being at the very least — open to trying what holds us back;

So that we prove to ourselves what we are capable of.

In the words of Barbara Baron,

“Don’t wait for your feelings to change to take the action. Take action and your feelings change.”

If we wait for the day that we begin to feel differently about some things, to do something about them — we’ll only be waiting;

If we choose to act differently now — we may end up seeing our object of fear and worry, in a new light.

Life offers us plenty moments when we think we can’t, and we won’t — but it is those moments that require us to be exposed to them, and come through to the other side.

Life’s too short to be boxed in our own head — but it is long enough to offer us opportunities to outgrow it.

So, the next time you find yourself taking a step back — try and expose yourself to it instead — who knows what you might end up learning about yourself?



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