A Parent Is Born
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A Parent Is Born

How To Become A More Selfish Parent

Yes. You can come back from this.

It’s hard telling people you don’t want to have kids. They look at you suspicious, eyebrows arched up nearly into their hairlines. It feels impossible telling people I can imagine a life (just as beautiful, just as meaningful), in which I never had the kids that are currently fighting over who has to scrub the crusty dinner pots. And that in my current life I deeply enjoy, crave, and revel in the childless spaces I create…




Because the moment a child is born, a parent is born, too.

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Juliane Bergmann

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I love words and people and “…conversations that it seemed a sin to break off: the ones that made the sacrifice of the following day a trivial one.” — Hitchens

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