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Better Understanding for a Better Life
Real Love is Not Easy
We Need to Apply Some Elbow Grease at Times
It would be great if real love in real life were the way that it is portrayed in movies, on television, and in print. All shined up and perfect. Always exciting. Everybody is happy!
But real love isn’t really like that. Real love is hard work. Real love requires us to pay attention. Real love REQUIRES us to pay.
To express genuine love, you have to do the hard work. It takes time. It takes energy, and it takes effort.
When you love somebody, you are, in part, taking responsibility for their well-being. I don’t mean in some dysfunctional way that you are assuming responsibility for their happiness. That idea is not only ridiculous but also impossible and quite likely a sure path to your perpetual state of unhappiness.
I’m speaking of caring and caring profoundly and caring enough to put aside some of what I want for some of what the object of my love wants or needs.
Being a parent requires sacrifice. It is the most challenging job on earth. Whether you get it right or wrong, it’s tough. Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. It doesn’t matter if you are tired, sick, injured, or depressed; your job description…
