How You Can Stop Being Defensive and Invite More Joy Into Your Life

How You Can Stop Being Defensive and Invite More Joy Into Your Life
Is your defensiveness driving people away and weakening relationships?
Ali Hall
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Published inAbnormally Normal Newsletter
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6 min read·
Mar 22
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Photo by Tycho Atsma on UnsplashWhen we act defensively, we are in self-preservation mode. If we feel under attack, we defend ourselves by batting away any hostility raining down on us.
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Written by Ali Hall
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🏆 Top Writer. Kindness = my superpower. ✍Psychology, friendship, social justice, feminism & personal growth. Lover of trail running & dogs.
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