Personal story & Author The Gift of Sensitivity
About Me -Elena V Amber / The Gift of Sensitivity
Hey, I am the founder, doctoral researcher, and award-winning author offering a unique perspective on human existence within a rapidly advancing technological era.
If you come across my profile, chances are all of these are familiar to you: “Do it, stop being emotional, take back control, move, and don’t get stuck!”
I was “in control” for half of my life, using personal influence. It worked out until I collapsed.
Self-control is often compared to a limited energy source.
When it is running low, we might struggle to keep our cool and push away negative thoughts.
This increased absorption of negativity makes us feel vulnerable, akin to being “without a skin.” In this state, we are more likely to avoid tough challenges, lose our motivation, and find decision-making tricky. This can lead to a drop in performance in tasks that need us to stick it out through discomfort.
So, when we are feeling drained, we might dodge conflicts, shy away from speaking up, see things in a too-simplistic way, stop seeking knowledge, and put a lid on our creativity.
Many opt for continual self-control due to the popular understanding of its benefits, including “where attention goes, energy flows”, where we increase the dose of self-control towards what we think is important for us.
I advocate for the significance of emotions in both personal and professional realms through my latest publication, “The Gift of Sensitivity: The Extraordinary Power of Emotional Engagement in Life and Work.”
A few years ago, I was asked a million-dollar question that changed my life: What was one thing that allowed you to have all life success and which you want to share with others?
I have sincere gratitude for my life, full of adventures, interesting people, and opportunities.
I have been full on my educational journey, where I hold four diverse Master’s degrees spanning biology, management, psychology, and business administration.
In my previous corporate career, I contributed to national initiatives with a turnover of billions, helped with the launch of world-leading brands in new countries, and oversaw start-ups, earning a reputation as a team leader who “makes things happen.”
My professional background encompasses an industry portfolio in a very diverse range, from telecommunications to aviation, finance, online retail, or travel.
Transitioning from the corporate world for personal freedom and meaningful life, I am currently pursuing a Ph.D. that merges behavioral psychology and economics with neuroscience, focusing on practical research that explores how behavioral factors affect sustainable consumption at the nexus with impulsive buying behavior.
My social life involves engaging in various projects, from networking and alternative education clubs to community research in locations such as Bali, occasionally embracing a more solitary lifestyle akin to that of a monk, particularly during my work leading to The Gift of Sensitivity book.
However, it was not always like that. I was born with rickets, went through poverty, had a motherless childhood, got a near-death car incident, was barely done with a school certificate due to neurodivergence difficulties and rebellion, and stood the pattern of deaths and loss early.
Might be too early…by the age of 22, I was absolutely alone on the planet and my hair turned completely white in two weeks out of excruciating grief, manifesting that loss.
My personal story revolves around a gripping family drama sparked by my father’s battle with a brain tumor.
Despite abandonment by his wife battling a diagnosis, epilepsy, and a prognosis of only two years to live, he defied the odds and lived for 15 years through sheer willpower and the use of “thought alone”.
This stands as a testament to the remarkable capacity of human will or self-control power. Yet something was missing in this way of life as he never tapped into his emotions as a source of vitality, living a life of strict self-discipline characterized by daily pain management only by the age of 48.
Answering this powerful question, today I share with you what happens if we embrace our emotions, the wellspring of vitality, rather than suppressing or controlling them, thus depleting our essence.
By fostering emotional connections, we are meant to feel, know, and understand more, transform faster, and utilize more parts of our brain.
We are all born sensitive; I have never met any human without the ability to feel.
However, most of us are frozen, or emotionally stultified. Others are vulnerable and wounded and prefer not to touch the emotional zone, which is often a source of pain.
Therefore, many of us prefer a life of self-control instead of a life of freedom.
A paradigm focused on self-control rather than self-exploration rules the day. However, why suppress emotions and restrict our natural states, wasting precious resources we have?
While not everyone is born into wealth, many achieve financial freedom.
I discovered the human capacity tied to emotions that guides us towards freedom and well-being.
Furthermore, we can treat it as any other asset in our lives, fostering increased self-worth, self-regulation, emotional vitality, empathy, sensitivity, resilience, inclusiveness, and a positive outlook on life.
I invite you to own, grow, and apply your Emotional Capital for life and work.
Find me on LinkedIn, Goodreads, or a website. Send me professional inquiries at Kirkus ProConnect.
Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:
- The Gift of Sensitivity Book saves your precious time summarising 8 years of research & personal journey. Take a copy to discover your own sensitivity, transforming it into a superpower for a future with extraordinary faculties such as creativity, originality, innovation, intuition, flexibility, and inclusiveness in times of technological acceleration.
- Your Emotional Capital Newsletter informs you with a mosaic of perspectives and insights on how emotional depth can fuel transformation, expedite learning, and activate greater cognitive capacities. Here, vulnerability meets strength, and sensitivity is recast not as a liability but as a potent asset.
- Emotional Capital for the Triple Win: 50 Innovative Ways to Lead the Consumption Revolution reveals 50 innovative strategies to transform consumer behavior for a triple win: benefitting people, the planet, and universal prosperity. It is a groundbreaking guide for the next generation of business leaders, founders, and innovators. Available 24th June 2025.
