About Me — Fedhz
Life begins at 40. So does my story.
It feels like I’m starting from scratch. I’m 40, and I’m glad my parents are no longer here. I needed time to heal and finally explore my true self.
Why is it harder to pen an “about me” than to talk about other people? Are we afraid of being vulnerable? Or of stepping on someone’s toes? Because if you start writing about yourself, you might also touch on the deepest feelings and thoughts that you haven’t revealed to anyone before. And you’re scared it might hurt them.
Or are you scared to discover something about yourself that you’re not ready to find out?
First off, why am I so uptight writing about myself? I’ve owned my domain for 16 years (since September 2008!), and it has changed from a “Homemaker Earning From Home” blog to…well, a blank canvas. I’m way past “Hello, World!” at least, and I’ve even set up three simple menus: About, Blog, Shop. I intentionally kept the navigation minimal — a deliberate choice to avoid overthinking the design and just focus on writing. The pages themselves are still works in progress, but it feels like a good starting point.
So here I am, trying to keep it in 3 bubbles (even after researching what to write for an ‘about me’!). And again, I’m stuck with, “who am I?” “what shall I write about?” “what am I offering?”
Keep it real. Be yourself. Make it short but sweet. That’s what all the guides say, anyway. But what does that even mean? And how do you do it without sounding like a cliché?
My world revolves around my family — my husband and our daughter, who has been drawn to aspects of both Hispanic and British culture. While I’m quite capable of talking about myself at length, most of my interests are set aside, focusing on being a homemaker.
Based on my stories, you can probably tell I’m a bit of an overthinker. I’m an INFJ (used to be ENFJ… ambivert then?), and I find myself reflecting and analyzing things quite a lot.
I’m from the Philippines, and while I can converse in English, my first language is Tagalog. This sometimes leads to confusion, as certain words or phrases don’t quite translate the way I intend. While my family understands basic Tagalog, those nuances can get lost in translation.
That’s why I’m writing again. To hone my thinking, improve my writing, and become more articulate. I need to catch up!
I started blogging in 2000 with a website called Xanga. It was a way to document my thoughts and, at the same time, “socialize.” Like writing with pen pals “abroad” (writing and sending snail mail or fan mail were a thing before). You might have guessed I’m an elder Millennial.
Like many bloggers who started around 2000, I have a digital trail scattered across the internet — remnants of those early days on forums (MyLot), blogs (WordPress, Blogspot, Tumblr), and other platforms that existed before social media took over. Back then, we were figuring things out as we went. I remember experimenting with different ways to monetize my blog, joining review sites that paid pennies per word, per article, per comment…ah, the early days of online content creation!
I told my husband I’d write a book by 40. Of course, he assumed I meant publishing a book by 40 (that’s how articulate I am!). What I really meant was I’d start writing by 40. Life begins at 40, they say, and I feel like I’m just beginning to come into my own. It’s been a journey of self-discovery, especially after losing my parents. It was only then, 4 or 5 years ago, that I truly felt like an independent person.
It has something to do with knowing that you don’t have a security blanket anymore. That if you fail, it’s all on you. You can’t go back home and blame your upbringing.
I needed a change, so I left my job as an “all-around” Virtual Assistant to focus on writing. But I kept one client — a speaker, author, and educator — because I value the connection and the opportunity to learn from her experience. I still work with her on occasion, helping her with various tasks like building courses and creating banner designs (one of my hobbies). So here I am, finally pursuing my passion for writing.
One of my blogger friends is now an influencer, creating videos (reels, shorts, the whole shebang!). She keeps trying to convince me to become a “video content creator,” as they call it these days. I gave it a shot, but it’s not for me. “I like my peace and quiet,” I told her. I prefer a slower pace, a space to own my thoughts and have deeper interactions. Less hype and trends. I value more genuine connection. If I’m going to write, I want it to be about me — my thoughts, my deepest feelings.
At the end of the day, it’s still easiest to express myself through writing.
Someone once told me that to write well, you have to write what you know. This is what I know. — Josie Geller (Never Been Kissed)
My hope is that you find something inspiring about me soon as I fill up another space here in the internet.
