About Me — Prajinta Pesqueda
We are the sum total of our experiences and define ourselves by what we do and who we love.
My identity has been forged by a number of things. Life was not kind to me as a bi-racial female growing up in the Texas Panhandle in the 60’s and ’70s. Not only was the environment inhospitable to say the least, but my family was also plagued with mental illness, turmoil, and dysfunction. The life script I was given was tragically flawed, and I lacked the knowledge, resources, or support to effect positive change. I carried this toxic programming into adulthood where I repeatedly chose partners who were similarly incapable of providing anything healthy or long-lasting. These experiences shaped me and serve as the foundation for my work in the niche area of recovery from abusive relationships with individuals who are too broken and impaired to function.
Secondly, my relationships with my children and my role as a mother have defined much of my life. I had sworn to myself to never be the weak, sick, impaired mother like the one who sadly inflicted profound damage on me. And while I failed to have the tools to remedy the situation with my firstborn son, I was actually able to learn more effective ways to parent and threw myself into the mission head first with the next two children. From time to time, I would express disdain for women who could not manage to put their children first, and ironically, we must be careful with declarations like that because, after nearly 20 years of single parenting and fierce devotion, I fell from grace and chose to put a deeply flawed man with profound personality disorders, addiction, and other issues above everything and everyone else. Now that I am on the other side of what I thought would be the marriage I had always dreamed of, I realize that I chose yet another mentally impaired person and compromised the integrity of my relationship with my family in the process.
Finally, one of the main forces in my life that have shaped who I am in my role as an educator. Early on, I developed an ability to connect authentically with others in meaningful ways that allowed me to open doors and windows in their thinking and serve as a catalyst for self-improvement, courageous choices, personal evolution and freedom from toxic programming. People have a…