Am I Making a Good Choice?
Actually, it doesn’t matter
We’ve all been there — facing decisions every day with that feeling of being stuck, overwhelmed by too many options, and pressured to choose the “right” one. I wish I had a universal answer that would make everything clear and tell me which choice is better every time. But what if, instead of hoping you’re making the right decision, you could just show up and take the first step? I think, that could change a lot.
The Weight of Decision
My mornings are always the same: I wake up, move around a bit, make a good breakfast, have some coffee, and head to work. But at some random moment during the day, I might glance out the window and ask myself: Am I on the right path? Am I doing this right? Where is all of this leading? These questions are endless, and it’s all too easy to get lost in them.
When I was a kid, I didn’t have to make any big decisions. The path was already laid out, and all I had to do was follow it. School, homework, vacations and so on. Then one day, I went for studies to another country far far away from my home. That single event opened up a whole new world — world of experience and opportunities, but also the world of questions and doubts. Was this even the right path? Could I actually make something out of this?
I didn’t have all the answers, but I kept going, taking actions that felt meaningful to me. I didn’t know if it was the “right” choice, but I just went for this journey. And years later, I understand that this single decision had a huge influence on shaping my personality and making me who I am now. It just reminded me that showing up, even without certainty, can lead to places you’d never expect.
Accepting The Failure Is a Part of It
Success isn’t a straight line. I had many success and fail stories during my journey. For example, I tried my hand at building a brand with a friend, hoping to create a unique and meaningful product.
Our first step was surprisingly successful — we managed to collaborate with an influencer just by sharing our designs and pitching the concept. I was thrilled. But that initial success quickly turned into pressure. Suddenly, I was scared to death of making mistakes, convinced I had to protect this “success” by doing everything perfectly. Eventually, the weight of perfectionism sank the brand before it had the chance to take off.
The lesson here was humbling but clear: success isn’t about avoiding failure; it’s about letting those experiences shape you. Failure isn’t a dead-end — it’s just part of the journey to figuring out what matters most to you.
Progress Over Perfection
If you’re like me, you might catch yourself comparing your day-one attempts to someone else’s polished achievements, and it’s easy to feel like you’ll never get there.
For instance, I started writing on Medium a few months ago, and I already find myself comparing my writing to seasoned writers who have been here for years. Or take my recent decision to try jiu-jitsu: after just a few classes, I was already frustrated, comparing myself to people who started a year ago and expecting to be at their level.
I constantly have to remind myself that we can’t avoid starting at the beginning, with all the awkwardness and mistakes that come with it. Trying new things means embracing being a beginner and accepting that not everything you create will be flawless.
Focusing on the Journey Over the Outcome
One of the best pieces of advice I’ve hard on the internet was this: “Instead of hoping you’re doing the right thing, make it the right thing.” No one starts with a guarantee of success. Most inventors, artists, and creators begin with nothing more than an idea and a willingness to fail. The fear doesn’t just disappear, but you learn to work with it.
Maybe the fear and uncertainty are actually signs that you’re on the right path — that you’re aiming for something meaningful. Instead of wondering if it’s the “right” choice, ask if you’re ready to make each step count. By shifting your focus to the process rather than perfection, you can create a journey that’s worthwhile, even when things don’t go exactly as planned.
Showing Up Every Day
Looking back, I realise that every success I’ve had wasn’t due to any special talent or ability, but simply the result of consistency and showing up. Showing up, even on days when I felt like giving up, was what moved me forward. Each pursuit taught me more about who I am, what I value, and what I want to bring into the world.
So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by a big decision, try changing your perspective. Instead of focusing on finding the “right” choice, focus on just taking a first step. Allow yourself the grace to be a beginner, to mess up, and to find joy in the process, not just the end result.
The Takeaway: Just Take the First Step
There will never be a good time to start. Instead of waiting for clarity or certainty, find value in the journey itself. Make each step count, and remember that even the smallest actions can lead to something great. Because in the end, it’s the effort and the journey that shape you far more than any single “right” choice ever could.
Peace.
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