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Healing My Nervous System — One Step at a Time

4 min readJun 4, 2025

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Photo by Alexander Grey on Unsplash

Fight or Flight have been my two “normals”. I recently started really focusing on solving the issues in my relationship and friendships, that I caused.

These issues stem from the constant survival mode I was living in. I probably still am, but I managed to bring it down from 90% in flight or fight mode, to, I’d guess, 50%.

This post is nothing but trying to help myself and others by writing down experiences, triggers from my childhood, and the effects they have on me and my responses today. Hopefully, this can help someone else too.

The more I talk, write or think about it consciously before and during my “reactions” to triggers, the better I can deal with it or handle them when they happen.

What Am I Trying To Heal?

People that have experienced abuse from their parents or close loved ones during their childhood, don’t learn what feeling normal means. They don’t learn to regulate their nervous system.

What does that mean (for me)? As far as I know, I have never been able to sleep well. Every sound meant something. The way my father came up the stairs told me whether…

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About Me Stories
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Harper Santiago
Harper Santiago

Written by Harper Santiago

A lover of stories and all things word-related. When not hunched over my laptop, you can find me sipping coffee in my fav café or wandering through the woods.

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