The Weirdest Break-Up In My Life

Polyamory, miscommunication trope, ADHD, and a man who wrote the red flags in his book.

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I matched with him on Pure.

It wasn’t the best time to start dating: I was leaving the country in two months. But my husband left the country before me, I felt lonely and horny, so I spent some time on the dating app.

So we matched and immediately felt some sort of familiarity. Not the “I know you”, but more of “We are from the same social circle”. It turned out we had the same hobby: live-acting role-playing. He passed the next test of not being my brother’s friend and not sleeping with my sister (most of my family is in the LA-RPG movement).

We tried to set up plans, we were both quite busy, so it was a bit of a hustle until we discovered he lived nearby. Nearby as 6 apartment blocks down the street. That meant we didn’t need to waste time commuting and to rely on public transport timetables. We decided to meet that very night.

The first meeting, common interests, and sexual tension

He came to my home and we started talking.

It turned out he was a translator. As my first attempt was in translation, we hit it off immediately. We shared our personal…