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A Daughter’s Tale of Setting Boundaries with a Father
Unpacking covert incest
The following material was developed in a free-flowing style for the purpose of writing articles on my struggle with covert incest with my father. Although I didn’t imagine I would publish this text in this format, when rereading the content, it seemed it could be valuable to others just as it is (I have edited it a bit). I plan to elaborate on this segment.
“I’d like to write about my psychological background: my dealings with covert incest with my father (in this story), and the narcissistic parenting from my mother. I’d like to mention that I did not go to my mother’s funeral. That I now don’t talk to my brother and his wife. The struggles I had in romantic relationships, and how I wrestled with the issues with my father in those relationships.
The awkward story around confronting my father, and the way he dealt with that. And then how uncomfortable it was to have to see him when I would come home after he got sick again and at my brother’s engagement party, etc. Telling my first therapist about how he would talk to me, and that she said he was romanticizing our relationship and that was called covert incest (I was 23). How I was never at ease being with my father alone, and it always felt like some kind of weird pressure that perhaps I distorted. But he was…
