3 Ways to Examine Jealousy in Our Partners

Their body language may give it away.

Synthia S.
Apr 18 · 3 min read
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Even the best of us may feel jealous from time to time, especially when we are vying for attention from someone, such as a friend, a relative, or a partner. In romantic relationships, jealousy is a fascinating emotion, one that can take the centre stage, but only if you give jealousy that level of power.

Remember, you are you, and you are not defined by your emotions. Your emotions are a part of you but they are not you.

Anyway, jealousy is a curious and natural feeling for many people, but it’s not exactly the best state to be in either. It can be an unadulterated emotion on its own, but it can also trigger other feelings like primordial anger, fear, sadness, and even distrust of others.

If you think your partner might be jealous, here are some signs to watch out for:

1. Constant Surveillance

If your partner is always suspicious of every darn thing, it might be a sign that your partner may have some underlying sense of insecurity about something. Perhaps your partner suspects infidelity where there isn’t any, and they’re constantly on various apps or programs that provide some sense of security, even if the fix is short-lived.

This increased attentivity towards a plight that doesn’t exist is problematic. This person is spending less time with you just to spend more time on their fixations.

2. Suppressed Anger

Perhaps there are facial expressions of anger towards the most innocent statements. Perhaps there are flushed faces, snarls, narrowed eyes, wide eyes, and a look of disgust or something along those lines. Perhaps there are clenched fists and the infamous silent treatment.

Either way, unspoken jealousy that elicits random anger is not cool. You shouldn’t have to live a life where you are fearful of offending your partners’ insecurities.

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3. Clinginess

When some people are jealous, perhaps the person will fall under an extreme and be fearful of losing you once and for all. This could a rather unsubstantiated fear, as you are in no way ready to leave this person, nor do you have a desire to — because you very much love them.

Yes, they will cling onto you as if you will leave them at the drop of a hat.

Perhaps they may randomly kiss more, hold hands more, and do so much more. While it’s not an issue at first, it might across as overwhelming and emotionally taxing, especially if you’re not in the headspace for it and need some momentary alone time to help unwind.

Final Takeaways

Whatever the situation you are in, there are many factors that can influence our behaviour, the behaviour of others in our environment, and so much more. Perhaps your partner will engage in constant surveillance, have suppressed anger, and be possibly super clingy.

There is variation in human behaviour, but these signs might be a rough ballpark that can help you pinpoint nuances and patterns in your partner’s behaviour. Either way, if you find yourself in this situation, have a collaborative discussion with your partner, and try to stay on the same page.

As Terri Guillemets once famously said,

“Jealousy hyphenates love in all the wrong places.”

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2X Top Writer | Canadian Writer & Researcher | Aspiring Therapist | Writing about mental health, psychology, etc. https://linktr.ee/SynthiaS

Accompanied by Enervation

A myriad of strange and creative works — a soundboard for Synthia.

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