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Dealing With Ghosting Narcissists and Their Attempts To Woo You Back
Don’t be fooled by their “hoovering” techniques.
As we all know, narcissism is an underlying sign of excessive self-love, where the needs of others are not usually met. Egocentric, lacking empathy, and wanting to be in the centre of attention, narcissists like to be in control.
However, just as they like to be in control, others may escape their clutches or find themselves “ghosted” by the same narcissist, and we assume that we have seen the last of them.
The Hoovering Technique in a Nutshell
Some narcissists engage in something called “hoovering”. It’s when they abandon you out of the blue, and after some time, try to get you back into their circle, as if they hadn’t just ghosted and tormented you before.
Showering you with eerily-specific promises and compliments, narcissists know exactly what to say to get you back — even if they don’t mean what they say.
Since they’re a narcissist, they might even spin past events as if they had done nothing wrong and insinuate that you did something horrible instead. If they do this, what they might be doing is called gaslighting.
