Before you Marry Her, Get to Know her Mother.
Men turn into their fathers, women turn into their mothers, so the truism goes.
It’s not just physical attributes either. Attitude, tone of voice and even healthfulness are all passed down from parent to child.
And it’s not all genetic. Many of the attributes we pass down to our offspring, we do so through our thoughts, attitudes, and habits.
For example, parents who eat healthily will forge in their offspring a habit to do the same. Parents who are contributing to society; working and paying taxes are much more likely to likely to raise children with the same foundation in ethics as they hold than either benefits claimants or children of very wealthy families.
If you meet a girl that you like, and you’re considering asking her to marry you, spend some time with her parents, especially her mother, and pay particular attention to how she treats her husband.
What you are witnessing is how you, yourself will be treated by this woman you’re thinking of marrying, in the years to come.
Is she gracious? Does she love and appreciate her husband, or is there any hint of a derisory tone or any witchiness there? It matters. You don’t want to get married to a witchy woman, nor do you want the daughters that you may have with her to be witchy.
The world needs more women who love and appreciate men for their positive attributes, and fewer witchy feminist types who look down their noses at men, considering them to be inferior to women, and pointing out their fallibilities at every moment.
If you decide to get married, and it seems to be less and less popular these days, you’re in it for the long haul. Till death do us part. So pick a nice one. Pick a partner who behaves as you would like your daughter (if you had one) to behave. Do you want your daughters to be temptresses? Then marry a strange woman who uses her feminine charms to get what she wants from men. They’ll learn from the master manipulator, their mother.
Many a man who married a temptress has come to regret his decision. 5 years after marrying, he suddenly awakes to the reality of his relationship. If he’s unlucky to have daughters, they will inherit the devil woman’s ways and go on to tempt and trap other hapless men.
It goes without saying that you absolutely must marry someone who appreciates you easily. Call it love if you want, but once the initial heady intoxication wears off, what’s left behind is hopefully admiration, and long-lasting appreciation of your spouse. If your spouse doesn’t appreciate you, your life will be a hard one, you’ll be trying to impress – just as you tried to impress your parents for their love - but it will all be for nothing.
The same goes for chaps, ladies. Meet his father and see how he treats his wife. Does he defer to her? Is he chivalrous? Is he an alpha male or does she wear the trousers in their relationship? Just make sure you’re happy with that situation, because it’s where you’ll be in 20 years’ time.
Find a man whose father appreciates his wife, not in an idolatry sense (idols tend to fall from grace once their humanity is recognised, and resentment usually follows) but someone who is kind, considerate, fun and lighthearted. Someone who doesn’t sweat the small stuff, like spilled drinks, broken plates, and small mistakes. It’s never worth getting upset about, and it’s almost never intentional.
The choice of a spouse is so much more important than looks or money, it’s about finding someone who shares your values as well as hopefully your mutual appreciation of the other. Out of this family unit, children will be formed and set forth into the world.
So take your time, and pick a good one. Never mind meet the parents, try living with them for 6 months and watch them very closely. The very future of mankind depends upon it.
