Fear Should Not Discourage You: Finding Happiness Series
Fear is a big part of our lives, whether we like it or not! There was a time when I used to think, ‘If only I could remove that fear hormone in me everything would be ok!’ Ever thought of this? Well it was because I didn’t know what exactly fear is.
Fear is caused by a hormone that is supposed to protect you from danger. Its whole purpose is to make you react to danger and find an exit plan. Thats why when we see danger, we don’t need to think anything through we just react, thanks to fear, right? However fear can become a barrier to your happiness, it can eat your joy in ways it doesn’t have to.
What do I mean? Well I am saying there are times were fear takes control of our lives, total control. Remember I said it should only occur in times of danger. What do you see as danger in your life? From the day you were born, your mind started to program itself, what is dangerous and what is not. Not only from experience of burns did you learn that fire burns but from being told, from seeing and from feeling. From there every time you mind sees fire, or anything like fire, it sees danger, activates the fear hormone and boom you are off. Contrary to most belief the mind is not perfect, it needs to be adjusted, talked out from beliefs which I like to call reprogramming.
Everything happens in the mind, you can tell your mind, using your mind, to change. How? Your mind is divided into two sections, the conscious and the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is the intellectual part, it is the part you understand, the part that tells you must not be scared. Then the subconscious mind is the part that was programed from when you were in kindergarten, it acts like the default of your life. This is the part that makes you freak even when you don’t expect to. It has its definition of danger from all your experiences. You have seen people who experienced abuse from men in their childhood freaking out when they see any man trying to advance on them, why? The subconscious mind is activating the fear hormone because it senses danger.
Like I said from the start fear is good and it is one of the things that have saved your a lot. But when fear starts messing with your happiness you need to reprogram your mindset. How? You need to start teaching your mind what danger is, and what its not.
One of the most effective way to do this is being courageous. Courage is not the absence of fear like you might think, courage is having strength to face your fears. If you are unhappy because you are afraid to tell your partner what you don’t like, courage is when you draw strength to just say it. Fear should only hold you back from danger but not happiness. Perhaps you have had a lot of bad luck dealing with confronting what you are afraid of, which is why your mind tells you its danger, but if you are already unhappy what could go worse?
Do not let fear hold you back in life. This is a topic for my success series too (coming soon), once you are able to defeat fear from taking over your space, you will see that your new found courage will help you build a life you want.
Always tell yourself all that you can do, you can give a public speech, you are not afraid, you have the courage to do it. Sometimes you want to start practicing your courage on small things so that you are sure of yourself when the time comes. Doubt is fear’s cousin so if you are not sure of yourself you only invite doubt and later on fear grows.
To do all this, you are going to need to believe in yourself, which is our next topic in the series. From now on always remember fear is not supposed to let you back and take away your happiness. I am going to help you with one small trick, close your eyes and imagine whatever you are afraid of, shout/whisper/sing ‘I am not afraid of you!’ Do this until it sinks into the other part of your mind. It might not be an overnight miracle method, but we are aligning our thoughts with the universe and one day a result will manifest.
Be happy and Be courageous :-)
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