Becoming Superhuman
3 Tips That Will Make You Have Meaningful Conversations
…Coming from someone with autism
I used to make this big mistake many years ago where I tried to build a connection with someone, but I asked all kinds of meaningless questions, or at least, made them meaningless. The conversations provided little value to the other and myself.
I do have autism, which had to do something with that issue, but I quickly started to learn the logic behind meaningful conversations.
So here are the main guidelines I follow to have more meaningful conversations.
#1: Emotions
Again, the questions I asked weren’t inherently meaningless, I made them feel meaningless because I focused too much on the logic. Let’s take some examples.
Meaningless conversation:
Me: So what’s your favorite color?
Her: Uhm… Blue.
Me: Why blue? (Me trying to discover the logic behind things. Reminder: I am autistic)
Her: I don’t know, it’s just pleasing to look at…
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Let’s put some more emotions into that.
