MENTAL HEALTH

Fear Of Change

Being afraid of what happens next

Deborah Horton
Jun 6 · 2 min read
Photo by Etienne Girardet on Unsplash

However, when we start working on that change and they start to think about what that change is going to look like, their fear can sometimes keep them from making forward progress.

When we have trauma, we have developed responses to that trauma since the trauma started. With every subsequent trauma, we have more responses added.

All of these responses shape how we think, how we react, and how we live.

Over years of time, regardless of how miserable we are or how bad our lives have become, we become comfortable in the knowledge that this is the way things are and we know this person we have become very well.

Much like an old blanket or comfortable slippers, they don’t exactly keep us warm anymore but we know them, we are comfortable in them, and we are not inclined to change them for something new.

When the little thoughts of change or the actual changes start to occur fear becomes a constant companion. Fear of who we will be without these worn-in parts of ourselves.

Fear of what we will lose and who we will lose if we opt for the new person we can become. Fear of the unknown instead of the old and comfortable.

This fear can be overcome, but it is not going to be comfortable. No serious work on trauma ever is. It is not going to be easy. It is not going to be quick.

It may well be the hardest work you will ever do and the scariest.

So what can help us overcome this fear of change? Accepting that we will be different. Accepting that our lives will be different.

Accepting that not everyone will make this journey with us. Accepting that we can live happier, healthier lives and that we deserve to do so.

The first step is always the hardest. Accepting that change means loss.

It is not change that people fear, it is the fear of what they may lose in the process.

We have to be willing to let go of the comfort of our misery and embrace the unknown and happiness.

a Few Words

A few words can change lives.

Deborah Horton

Written by

Deborah Horton Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Writer, Wife, Mom, Entrepreneur, Painter, Nerd, Human https://deborahhortonwriting.com

a Few Words

A few words can change lives.

Deborah Horton

Written by

Deborah Horton Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Writer, Wife, Mom, Entrepreneur, Painter, Nerd, Human https://deborahhortonwriting.com

a Few Words

A few words can change lives.

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