Member-only story
How to be a Boring Person
And how to turn that around
Recently, I had the displeasure of spending the evening with a person who was boring as hell. After an hour or so I wanted to chew my arm off to get the heck out of there. And this wasn’t the first time I’ve found myself with someone who bores the everloving life out of me.
There is a pattern with these people. There is an actual calculable reason why you zone out, and want to flee from them. There is a reason why they are boring as shit, and it’s so simple.
They talk about themselves nonstop and don’t ask questions. That’s it.
We all know them. As an introverted person, I might know and meet more than most. I mean, I don’t like talking that much, except if I’m drawn out by a person. I’m a good listener, and listen I do.
But when someone asks questions, it makes them way more enjoyable to be with.
And that’s the key — to be drawn out. That requires the other person to ask me questions. Not just talk about themselves. Non-freaking-stop.
Even a super-interesting person can become boring if they yammer on about themselves without seemingly having an interest in their companion. But when a boring person drones on and on — holy hell is that a torturous place to be.