12 Sexist Comments I Received Before Marriage

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I got married 2 years back and was living in a very protected environment until then. Never realized how sexist the society was and the extent of the persisting bias.

Things are slowly changing for sure. and I am living in a much better environment than my previous generation, but there is still a long way to go. Here are 12 comments I received in the period between my engagement and marriage:

1. Are you really going to continue working after marriage?
2. Oh, is your husband “allowing” you to work after marriage?
3. You are so lucky! Your husband knows how to cook!
4. Are you going to change your surname? When are you planning to allocate time for changing it in all of your documents?
5. Make sure to have kids within a few years of marriage.
6. Do you know to cook? Make sure you feed him properly.
7. How much (dowry) gold, have your parents saved up for you?
8. Make sure you do not fight with your husband too much. Girls need to adjust and compromise for their families.
9. Family is more important. Everything else (career and others) are secondary.
10. Give your husband respect. Do not call him by his name. What will others think?
11. Lose some weight. Do you not want to look beautiful on your wedding day?
12. You are going to get married now. Behave like a mature woman. Grow your hair, make it longer, and stop behaving like boys.

To all the aunties, uncles, some friends, and relatives — slow claps and raised eyebrows (sarcastic comments can also be included).