Soulful Conversations & A Belly Full of Laughs❤
Can Sustain a Lifetime of Romantic Love!
An insatiable appetite for deliciously soul deep conversations. And, an endless ability for uninhibited laughter.
Not sure if anyone’s spoken of them before in the same breath, but these; in my humble opinion, are two of the most powerful ingredients to sustain a lifetime of staying in romantic love!
They keep the life force of a bond alive, well beyond initial starry eyed promises. Much else, including the candlelight dates, the practiced affirmations of love, & fancy vacations; are incidental.
I didn’t say ‘romantic chemistry’ or ‘honesty’ because I assume them as a given- the former, to even embark upon any serious, non platonic relationship; the latter, the very foundation, without which nothing of worth can be built. But, these don’t guarantee a deeper connection, or a safeguard against jadedness, once the honeymoon freshness inevitably fades away.
Over sixteen years of being married to my soulmate; moving house across continents, & having pretty much just the two of us, to depend upon, in most times, makes me feel soulfully confident in this claim. Another adult’s company has rarely been a necessity to enliven our togetherness.
Deep talks, for me, indicate a yearning for a meaning of life, beyond the superficial, & the obvious. There’s something about a soulful exchange that allows us to bare our souls; shed defenses; yet, feel more whole & connected through that vulnerability. For two beings in love, this can literally create excited engagement with each other for life. Literally, everything can be elevated into a shared experience of exploration; insights; & wisdom.
The ability to laugh spontaneously; often; at each other, & our own selves, is the loveliest shield against potential stiffness of partners taking themselves too seriously for their own good. It dissipates egoistic stalemates; enabling warm bonding, lightness, & mature love. It also makes chores less taxing!
Now the tricky part. Though simple, these are not ingredients that can simply be superficially cultivated; not in their full essence. That’s why, such a connection cannot but be a deeply spiritual one, on the fundamental level. It goes beyond the preconceived image of ordinary romantic love, even if it also includes doing laundry together! It carries an element of the sacred & pure, even with raw sexuality! And, it almost always goes beyond the mere external; physical appearance, or circumstances.
Time together flows; not becoming a reminder of emptiness that constantly seeks to artificially create meaning through outer activity & distractions.
Uninhibited Soulful talks, & full bellied laughter! Ah! Their underrated magic allows a love to steadily transcend the mundane & experience the sublime; chartering it through all those inevitable rough patches; bringing it back to shore each time; knocked, or bruised, but always stronger & wiser. This is a wholeness that cannot be explained; only be experienced. There’s never really a dull moment here; not when two lovers are connected this way. I can vouch for that!
