The Mother Wound Is Where The Light Enters You…
When a woman recently connected with me for a Zoom Reiki session, I wasn’t expecting her to be someone who’d just turned 21. And, when I asked her if she’d heard the Tarot reading I’d e-mailed earlier, I wasn’t expecting her to say; “Yes, I did. It was very accurate!”, & burst into tears!
Mom trouble! She stayed with her mom but unable to bear the toxicity any longer, she was soon moving away. To add, she’d just lost her dad! Her anguish was evident.
I was taken aback, but not surprised since just hours back when I knew nothing about her, the Tarot had clearly indicated the need to reclaim her power from a female friend or mother figure; & walk her truth!
She wept profusely before & after Reiki, repeatedly apologizing; & I knew I was privy to a raw vulnerable moment of one yet a child, desperately clinging to her sense of home…
I kept reassuring her that the light will show her the way out of the darkness. I didn’t however, doubt the immensity of her challenge. She shared she was a Cancerian. For me, this only meant her struggle was even more traumatic. Most Crabs retain an intense emotional connection to their homes & mothers.
A parent wound; especially a mother wound is one of the most painful experiences ever; & persistent.
As a healer who works on self & others, I have no doubt of this disguised trauma.
Pure unconditional love is our essence at the nonphysical level. Even our insatiable need for external successes & stimulus is at its core, an attempt to somehow experience this all fulfilling soul experience that eludes us. It exists hidden inside us, waiting for us to journey to it. It cannot be replicated by another human.
But, meanwhile, a parents’ love is the nearest thing that can make up for some of it, because that forms the foundation of our lives. It is our first security; identity; & comfort. We are utterly & innocently dependent on it. Any deep dysfunction in this love creates havoc in our already fragile sense of human wellbeing; one that cannot be imagined, or underestimated. With a mother, the stakes are even higher, because our own sense of self begins even before our first breath, right from within her body.
A parental wound is so insidious it might operate, & limit one, their whole lives; without them even having a clue of its corrosive damage! The self-blame, unforgiveness, loneliness, rejection, unworthiness, & anger are incisive. It takes deep self-awareness; acceptance; & courage to tread through, & transmute this pain into the light.
Those who’ve chosen this at a soul level are warriors ready to heal something powerfully, & discover their own light! Our darkest abyss leads to the most profound light. This, I can say with faith; if it’s any comfort for anyone healing from an unhealed parent.
It’s not for nothing that my favorite Rumi quote is; “The wound is the place where the light enters you!”
