What Is Wrong With The F Word?

Why is it so bad?

Agnes Louis
Apr 13 · 2 min read

Cousin: Do you know my friend, A?
Me: I’m bad in remembering names but if I see him I might know.
Cousin: Well, he’s a bit… *making gesture that indicates bigger body*
Me: Like… plump?

Say it. Say it out loud! Photo by Clem Onojeghuo on Unsplash

Fat. The word I wanted to say was fat.

It was long after that conversation that it dawned on me.

Why couldn’t I say it? Why did I feel like that one adjective is wrong and bad?

Definition of fat (adjective) according to Oxford Dictionaries:

  • (of a person or animal) having a large amount of excess flesh
  • Large in bulk or circumference.

What the hell is so wrong with those two things?


I used to be mad too when someone called me fat a few years ago. Even when my own family members did it. I got very upset.

But why?

It’s a word used to describe how a person looks. Just like beautiful or tall or short.

If a person’s fat, a person’s fat. If I’m fat, I’m fat.

What the hell is wrong with being fat?

Well, if the fatness level is crossing the threshold towards illness, for example, obesity or heart disease, then something should be done to fix it. But otherwise, it’s not something bad at all.

I’m a Yoga/Pilates teacher. I’ve heard too much about this whole fat / skinny issue.

Fat and skinny are neither bad nor good.

Healthy is the main thing.

It’s absolutely okay being fat.

And it’s absolutely okay being skinny.

It is what it is.

But whichever you are, make sure you’re healthy and happy!

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Agnes Louis

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Writer by heart. Teacher by trade. I teach English, Yoga and Pilates. Avid reader. World traveller. Model.

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