Why Self-Helping Helps
Remember the episode of “Sex and the City” where Charlotte found herself in a self-help aisle in a bookstore? Women were sobbing while reading books about divorce and loneliness. All the book titles in that aisle seemed so overpowering. It was hard for Charlotte to admit to the general public that she has a problem. Sadly, most of us only show the beautiful façade of our messy lives to the world.
The very first step in taking action is admitting that there is a problem. Whatever it is, admitting it to yourself means that you need help. And who knows your needs the best? Right, that’s you! Self-helping is the easiest and cheapest way to start working on yourself and on your needs. Whether it’s in the form of meditation, reading self-help books, or attending online self-help classes, just go for it!
After admitting to yourself that one or several aspects of your life need some attention or change, you’re ready to take the next step. This is when you analyse yourself and your behaviour so far. Try to figure out when your problem started and what was the reason. You might even start a diary. Usually our troubles are small at the very beginning. But if they are left unnoticed or ignored, things start to accumulate and that’s when you have a snowball effect happening to you. Things tend to get from bad to worse if no attention is paid to a problem.
Finally, when things are getting or already have gotten really out of hands, then it’s time to hire a professional. It’s still considered as self-helping but with some outside help.
Back to my title, the original question of this article. Self-helping helps because it means you’re trying to change or fix whatever needs fixing in your life. It means you are ready to grow as a person and improve youself. Be the better version of your previous self. We are all on this planet for a reason and we are all trying to figure out who we are and why we do the things we do. By working on our issues we strive to find out what that reason is. Going with the general flow is easy. Standing out and being your unique self, with your own view of the world, means you’re a strong person who’s not afraid to admit and work on their weaknesses.
