5 Quotes to Stir Your Soul

Mary Welch Official
Age of Awareness
Published in
12 min readMar 21, 2023

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What follows is the transcript of episode 12 from my podcast: Love Notes From a Soul Coach. You can listen to the episode here :)

Ram Dass once said:

When you go out into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn’t get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don’t get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree.

The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying ‘You are too this’, or ‘I’m too this.’ That judgment mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are.

This passage reminded me that research on relationships demonstrates that within the most successful, thriving relationships, the practice of appreciation runs deep. Appreciation is the key ingredient.

Some people consider acceptance to be the opposite of judgement but I consider the opposite of judgement to be appreciation.

Because when we’re judging, we’re tearing down. We’re pulling apart. We’re finding fault. And when we’re appreciating, we’re not looking with a critical eye. We’re looking through the eyes of love and gratitude. We’re not asking the other person to change. We’re not creating stories about them or totalizing them. We’re not pathologizing them either. We’re just taking them in and choosing — (yes, I think appreciation is a choice — the same way judgement and criticism are choices) — to dwell on what is lovely and worthy and admirable in the other.

I love Ram Dass’s use of the word “allow” here. “You look at the tree and you allow it.”

This is also a huge theme and premise for the teacher Abraham’s work on manifestation. There’s a great line from Abraham that goes: “Release the word earn from your vocabulary and replace it with the word allow.

Sometimes the work, spiritually speaking, is not so much about the effort to create something — to create a new frame of mind or create a different, more positive experience in our lives — sometimes the work is about releasing all of that effort and allowing our focus, our vibration to align with what is.

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Mary Welch Official
Age of Awareness

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