Analysis Doesn’t Heal Trauma, Joy Does.

Mary Welch Official
Age of Awareness
Published in
2 min readApr 25, 2024

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There’s an ultra fine line that’s easy to cross in therapy, when talking about our trauma can shift from feeling liberating to feeling self defeating.

We can get lost in the stories of what happened, identified with the pain. We can lose sight of the real aim of our healing work — which is not to “solve” or fix anything in particular in our lives, but to live with greater inner freedom.

When we focus on our pain — even with the good intention of wanting to better understand it — it can wind up absorbing a lot of psychic space in our lives. It’s easy to get lost in these aisles and to forget how important joy is to our healing.

Is healing hard work? It can be. But it can also be meaningful and easeful.

We can experience shifts in our capacity to be more present with our own unfolding, to connect more deeply with simple moments — the kind we may have taken for granted or been too weighed down or distracted to appreciate once upon a time.

As the saying goes: It’s impossible to round up the darkness but we can turn up the light.

Turning up the light addresses the darkness indirectly. Focusing on joy in our lives does the same thing to traumatic emotional pain. We don’t need to scrape the old layers away. We can paint over them with something more…

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Mary Welch Official
Age of Awareness

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