Can You Stay Calm In Stressful Moments?

Responding consciously in moments of stress is a lifesaver. Here’s how you can respond calmly in 3 steps.

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Jan 20 · 4 min read

Why actually keep calm?

This question sounds a bit strange, but aren’t there also good reasons to be stressed and tense or even to go ballistic? There are.

I can’t help it!

The problem is: When we lose our inner calm, we react quite automatically and have the feeling that we can’t react any other way. As if from a random generator, an impulsive reaction comes out of us.

“Between stimulus and reaction there is space.”- Viktor E. Frankl

No matter what is causing your anxiety, you always have a choice between all possible behaviors.

Step 1: Perceive

This first step is about noticing when you are about to lose your inner calm. You may notice this in your body, for example, when your heart beats faster, your breathing becomes shallower, you may feel hot or cold, or you may start to sweat.

Step 2: Breathe

If you observe yourself as you did in Step 1, you will now also notice the automatic reactions that you would like to display now. Screaming, fleeing, falling silent, crying, grumbling — it may be that some of these will turn out to be useful at second glance.

Step 3: React consciously

There are always several ways to react to something. When we keep calm, we usually mean not yelling, but speaking calmly, being patient and deliberate, and making conscious decisions that also help calm others.

Does staying calm mean pretending?

Although we probably all wish we could remain calm, this wish is often accompanied by a concern that we will no longer be authentic or that we will suppress our feelings.

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