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Shifting Out of Self Blame into Personal Responsibility
At this time of year, I crave fire.
I keep candles in every room of the house. Especially in the kitchen since that’s the place we all seem to converge most often. I don’t like the battery operated kind with the fake flicker. The real dance of a flame can’t be replicated. It has a kind of cadence, like a voice in conversation. It has its own personality and presence.
The company we keep matters. It’s what balances the early darkness of December. And yes, darknesses of all kinds can be balanced. That’s how we find our peace — not in trying to cancel something out or eradicate it, but in acknowledging, responding and counteracting it.
The company we keep doesn’t have to necessarily be in the form of other people or social obligations. Sometimes we are our own best company. And this is why it’s especially important to mind our thoughts.To make sure the relationship with have with ourselves is a source of comfort and inspiration — not a part of our lives to resent or avoid.
Victoria Erickson wrote:
Consider soulmates to also be in the form of friends and animals, the wind, the tides, the plants, pieces of art and the moon. Great love lives everywhere.