Why am I so scared to be myself around my students?

I show off my personality just fine, but when it comes to my personal life, I tend to stay guarded.

Brian Rowe
Apr 18, 2019 · 4 min read
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I teach at the college level, and I love it.

I’ll often try to get the students to learn something through my use of humor, and I love it when they all share a collective a-ha moment when they consider something they might never have considered before about writing.

But the one thing I’ve always struggled with over the years is revealing any details to students about my personal life.

The question almost always is… are you married?

Why am I so scared for my students to know I’m gay?

I wish I could be not just most of myself, but all of myself, in the classroom.

I’m hoping I’ll be able to evolve in this issue in the years to come.

So why am I always so scared to be honest about it? Why am I scared to be 100% myself?

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Brian Rowe

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Author / Teacher / MFA in Fiction. (brian_rowe@me.com)

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Stories providing creative, innovative, and sustainable changes to the ways we learn

Brian Rowe

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Author / Teacher / MFA in Fiction. (brian_rowe@me.com)

Age of Awareness

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