Bi the Way, I Don’t Really Belong

Alison Sparks
Age of Empathy
Published in
4 min readJun 21, 2022

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I guess being a part of some community was always a big deal to me because I grew up as a complete outsider. I was heavily bullied for 9 years, and it certainly impacted my life in not so great ways.

I must have realized that I was bisexual around the age of thirteen or fourteen. It was around the time when Lady GaGa had released ‘Born this way’, and I found true solace in her fandom. Most of the people were members of the LGBTQ+ community, and even though I wasn’t out of the closet to anyone yet, I felt like one of them.

You see, most of my friends are straight and monogamous. It’s quite simple for them. They find a man that they like and date him (one at a time!). For me… well, it’s been quite a chaotic journey from one dating app to another, then rinse and repeat.

But this is not what I want to talk about today.

At the age of twenty-three, I finally moved back to my home country, after living in the UK for almost 4 years. Of course, I was hesitant when it came to seeking out potential love interests on dating apps, because Latvia is still quite homophobic compared to many other countries. However, when I found out about all the Pride events, I was excited. I was about to meet my people, make friends, maybe even find a potential partner or a few… Well, that didn’t go as planned at all. I didn’t feel welcome…

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Alison Sparks
Age of Empathy

Just a writer, sharing my musings on sex, sexuality, sex work, mental health and LGBTQ+ topics.