Building Bridges Across Political Divides — A Family’s Journey to Understanding

We tackled tough topics and found hope.

Seth’s photos of us together and the Deception Pass bridge in Washington State.

“The election results were a surprise, weren’t they?” My son texted me on November 7th.

“That’s for sure”. That’s all. Reluctant to say more.

Understand: arguing is our family sport. We wrangle, cross swords, and belabor our points. We want to hear evidence, persuade, and lock horns, and while it sounds angry to outsiders, it’s not. We are passionate people, and the game is the thing.

But sometimes it doesn’t work. One of my sisters and I no longer speak because of differences in what we believe about climate change. I hurt a man dear to me by overwhelming him with evidence that the US did not win the Vietnam War. I was haughty and insensitive to the fact it was personal to him. I was wrong.

Yes, discussing politics or deeply held beliefs with loved ones can lead to conflict, even with respect and curiosity.

I’ve learned there are dangers and rules must be followed: no alcohol, and we must talk face to face.

Bridging divides requires both people to be willing and emotionally ready. If your family isn’t used to discussing deep subjects, don’t start with hot topics and take it slow.