Do You Regret The Path Not Taken?

Reminiscing is okay, but it’s best not to regret

Demeter V Delune
Age of Empathy

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“I’ll never know, and neither will you, of the life you don’t choose. We’ll only know that whatever that sister life was, it was important and beautiful and not ours. It was the ghost ship that didn’t carry us. There’s nothing to do but salute it from the shore.” — Cheryl Strayed

My good friend Meaghan Ward recently wrote about regrets and shared this quote from Cheryl Strayed. Though I don’t share the same regrets that Meaghan discussed in her piece, this particular quote stayed with me and got me thinking.

I try to live by the axiom of not regretting much. The way I look at it, I wouldn’t be where I am now if I hadn’t taken the paths I’ve taken. Sure, it would have been nice if some of them hadn’t been so rocky, or had so many potholes, cavernous pits, and other boobytraps along the way. But I try very hard to consider that I had to go around all of those things for a reason (or through them, as it were) to get from point A to point whatever.

Would I have met the people in my life at each juncture had I walked a straight path? It’s like playing a video game on easy mode, you don’t encounter all the NPCs in the game who have the cool stuff if you just walk the straight road from the beginning to the end.

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Demeter V Delune
Age of Empathy

S*x educator, Freelance Writer for hire, Journalist. Words in Passionfruit, Pleaser, MamaMia, Giddy, Petit Mort, Daily Dot, Your Tango| demeterdelune.com