Stop Telling Young Girls This When They’re Hurting

Does my daughter’s heart matter less because she’s young?

Stephanie D. Rondeau
Age of Empathy

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Photo by Roberto Nickson on Unsplash

My daughter has recently been having problems with a couple of friends at school.

They’re very young—only in first grade.

I’d be willing to bet that many readers read that last line and their brains immediately said “First grade? It can’t be that important.”

Stick with me here.

I’ve encouraged her to work these issues out on her own and have helped her with some strategies to do so, but it’s been difficult.

When I recently brought this up with the parents of one of the other children involved in the situation, I was brushed off.

I was told to let it go, that they’re all going to go through much bigger problems later on in their teenage years and beyond, so it’s not worth worrying about this now.

I understand this sentiment. I do. But just because you might go through something worse later on in life doesn’t make a hurtful situation hurt any less in the present.

Since when is a problem invalid just because you’ll have more problems later on down the road? If this is the case, then nothing matters until you die. Because that’s the only point at which you won’t…

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Stephanie D. Rondeau
Age of Empathy

MS, ATC, CSCS. Kidlit author and editor, query liaison. Mostly writes about writing, health and wellness, feminism, and parenting. Occasionally funny.