The Grandmothers I Didn’t Know

Kate Stone Lombardi
Age of Empathy
Published in
5 min readMar 10, 2023

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How I wish I could have known my grandmothers. How I wish they could have seen their legacy. Still, I carry them with me.

My Grandmother Isabel

My grandmother Isabel spent most of her life locked in a psychiatric ward. My Dad last saw her when he was six years old; she died before I was born.

My grandmother Lawson lived in Texas and I grew up in New York. She and my mom had a terrible relationship, and we rarely saw her. Both grandmothers were born in the late 1800s and are long gone. Each was a pioneer but in very different ways.

And though I didn’t know them, they are with me.

Grandmother Lawson was a pioneer in the literal sense. Her parents emigrated from Germany to Texas in the 1800s as part of a group given a large land grant by the Republic of Texas. The town they helped settle, Fredericksburg, named after Prussian Prince Frederick, was in the heart of what’s now known as “The Hill Country.”

As homesteaders, they arrived to dry and wild land, and of course, no running water or electricity. As immigrants, they didn’t speak the language. Illnesses swept through the new community with a relentless vengeance. Waves of cholera, tuberculosis, typhoid, and measles decimated the population. My grandmother was only four years old when she lost her mother to influenza. Her father died when she was seven.

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Kate Stone Lombardi
Age of Empathy

Journalist/author. Contributor NYT 20+ years. Also WSJ, Time.com, GH, AARP, more. Author: Mama’s Boy Myth (Penguin/Avery 2012). Cook. Besotted grandmother.