The Worst Part Isn’t the Sadness or the Grief

Why the second arrow always hurts more

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“You were embarrassed for feeling sad about the death of your cat. It’s painful enough to feel sad, but on top of it . . . to feel embarrassed for feeling, that is the killer.”

This short quote, taken from I Heart Huckabees, is a perfect example of what Buddhists call “the second arrow”.

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Danielle Loewen

Danielle Loewen

she/her | reader | queer feminist | recovering academic | body lover | gamer | poet & fabulist

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