INSIGHT INTO ANGER
What I Found Beneath My Anger
What you may also find
For half of my life — the early half — I’d not been able to get beyond my anger to the feelings beneath it. To the hurt it covered up. I wasn’t able to feel the true cause of my pain.
In my thirties, I found a therapist to help me deal with my childhood trauma.
What follows is an example of a situation that happened a few years ago, and how it relates to anger and getting beneath it to patterns and beliefs.
It all started when I saw a list for an upcoming author’s event and I was not included on the list.
It was then I recalled an earlier email where the registration form that was supposed to be attached, wasn’t. At that time I’d replied to the sender, pointing out the error.
Life got busy — as so often happens — and I didn’t think about not receiving the application form. Not until that list came out and I was not on it.
That was when I got upset. And yes, angry.
But that’s also when I stopped to wonder what was beneath my anger.
What had triggered such a strong reaction? Such anger I seldom feel anymore. What was really upsetting me?
