Why Modern Dating Sucks–Even as a Conventionally Attractive Woman
Please love me unconditionally (for more than my size two body)
“I can’t provide that sort of unconditional love for you. You’re looking for a father, not a boyfriend,” my ex told me.
I have a bad habit of always asking questions I know the answer to, because I like being proven right, no matter how hurtful the answer is. I’d ask, “Would you still love me if I were ugly?” to face answers ranging from “I don’t know” to “I’ll try my best to”.
Growing up, I had always believed that love is something earned, not given. The former’s true, unfortunately, in the real world. But you can’t grow up believing it, because your parents are supposed to give you unconditional love. It is the only space in which unconditional love exists, and most people get it early on, so they aren’t too concerned about the level of work needed to tailor themselves to be an attractive enough romantic candidate.
It’s the same as only being retained in a job because of the labor you provide. You’re always going to have to provide something to your partner to be someone worth retaining. It’s sad, but it’s the truth of the world, and most people learn to live with it.
